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Research Paper

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL EFFECT OF THE SOUL MATE IDEA








A Research Paper Presented to
The English Resource Center
School Of Multimedia Arts
Asia Pacific College
Magallanes, Makati City









In Partial Fulfillment
of the Requirements for the Course
ERESWRT-Research Writing
















Chrisia Mae I. Rosco


August 2014



Chapter 1
INTRODUCTION

A. Background of the Study

Nowadays teens are more attach and apply the knowledge of the love magic. Unlike the other generations they are pertain in the way they want to do or to feel the love. Most likely a lot of them are in love because of the idea of the existence of something. This idea really affect the decision of others in terms of taking decision about love. SOUL MATES, this is a belief wherein you are thinking or maybe predicting that someone is your partner/couple in this earth.

Probably before knowing that is your soul mate you might be feel this kind of feeling. Its like we are simply relating ourselves in the scenarios that commonly happen in a fairy tale. So crush is a first part of soul mates though it is such familiar in most of the teenager because they are much attractive in the physical appearance of that person not on his/her attitude. In the article entitled,"Soul Mates- Our Magic Mirror" written by Anita Asman. This article states that crush only last for a maximum of months but if will exceed more than this, you are already in love. You might feel strong & fast heart beats,weakened knees and inexplicable attractions everytime you will see him/her.


According to Anita Asman," The eyes are the mirror to the soul when your eyes meet, you remember each other." (http://theunexplainedworld.com/asoulmate.htm)

Reincarnation matters on that quote. You are maybe have connection to the world of the soul mate. Because some people reincarnate and your soul consciously remember,the joy and the pain you shared the past lifetime you spend together a decade or a century. You just fall in love in some reasons but some articles explains and give ideas about the elements of the soul mates. In the article entitled," The 10 elements of a Soul Mate" written by Dr. Carmen Harra. She explains more about how would you find your soul mate partner in this kind of criteria. She stated that lovers are the keys who fit to the lock of the person that they loved. Soul mates aren't just the one who fulfill in a way we want it.

"Your soul mate makes you feel entirely whole,healed and interact,like no missing from the pieces", Dr. Carmen Harra stated. (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/elements-of-a-soulmate_b_3595992.html)


The perfect lover you will find can make you feel whole and protected. Life is nothing without love. Because it is the way that's why He created us. It is a part of His greatest gift "Our Lives". Soul Mate is a very mysterious topic and most of us believe in this. But somehow then let us think that someone is staring and looking at us above.


In the article entitled, "The Soul Mate Fantasy" written by David Beasley, states that soul mates are fantastical,unreal notion that God brings together two lost heart who experience true compatibility in all the deepest longings for their beings. Others be like, Soul Mate is someone with whom you argue and spend endless days of hand clinching romantic walk.


According to David Beasley,"It only comes from giving up the selfish behavior that served that served you while you were single and focusing on selflessly serving again spouse instead." (http://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/getting-married/engagements-and-weddings/the-soul-mate-fantasy#.U9j9ZeOSw8p)



Talk to God and say the things you want to happen. Patience will be your key and this kind of scenario you want to exist will happen on a successful and real thing.



In spite of the unrealistic belief about the soul mates. They're a lot of individuals, most probably couples are into it and still hoping hat it is exist. But then they didn't notice that being into this kind of idea/belief may affect them psychologically like having a more stronger relationship than the others who don't believe in this kind of idea. Such as this also may happen vice versa. This may help the believers cope with the realistic pattern of the true world of love. Psychological problems can affect your personal behavior and thinking/decision making process. Therefore,having background knowledge about soul mates will add or maybe help us learn a new and proper understanding to what we should believe through. Knowing that this maybe hard to defend because studies don't find good proof regards to its existence.


The purpose of this paper is to explain the psychological effect of believing in the existence of the soul mates.


B. Statement of the Problem 

            This study aims to answer this question:

1.) What are the psychological effect of believing in soul mates?


C. Significance of the Study

Teenager -This research paper would be able to help teenager who believes in the idea of the soul mates. This can make them understand more knowledgeable about soul mates. Moreover, the researchers hope that giving emphasis to the existence of soul mates can make a positive contribution in the relationship.


Believers - The believers would benefit from this study because they would be able to understand things more about love. The information in this paper may also help them to be more open-minded because being into this kind of idea may affect them psychologically.


Couples - Knowledge of this study would help couples understand the world of love wider. Because soul mates can change the way they make decisions. This believe would help there relationship more stronger without the belief of the existence of something.


Future Researcher - This study is important for those future researchers to make similar studies since soul mates is a crucial topic. Some previous researchers don't have proof that can strongly persuade others to stop believing in this topic. The information from this study can help them improve and understand deeper. Also this can give more detail study for their topic.


D. Scope and Delimitation


This study focuses on the psychological effect of soul mates through the relationship. Considering that soul mates has a wide effect to the couples that experiencing a dilemma because of this idea.

Due to the lack of time this study will no longer discuss about the scientific studies that can give a proof unto soul mates existence widely. And in how should this affect you in a scientifically reasons. This is also to give emphasis to the psychological affection of soul mates to the human beings.



E. Materials and Methods 

The information relevant to the study was gathered from various reference through online sources. The researcher used this sources to gather information and summarize it to make the study easy to understood.

This can make you understand how soul mate idea can find your couple and can affect you psychologically.


F. Definition of Terms

Belief - an acceptance that a statement is true or something exists.

Couple - Two people who are married,engaged or otherwise closely associated romantically or sexually; two individuals of the same sort or considered together. 

Crush - a brief but intense infatuation for someone, especially someone unattainable or inappropriate.

Lovers - a person having a sexual or romantic relationship with someone, often outside marriage.

Soul mates - a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity.

Reincarnation - the religious or philosophical concept that the soul or spirit, after biological death,begins a new life in a new body.

Relationship - state of being connected by blood or marriage.


                  

Chapter 2
DISCUSSION


What are the PSYCHOLOGICAL EFFECT of believing in soul mates?

I. Superstition & Psychology

Superstition is the belief in supernatural causality. These can make us think that a thing/idea naturally exist. This can affect you in making your life more tricky and exciting, but it will come to the point that being into this kind of idea merely affects you too much in making your life more difficult.

As superstition conquer the idea of soul mates; this thing just make the life of every individuals be more hopeful for chances forever. They will just end up to the point that being so attach to this kind of scenario will just make them ill and crazy, probably being into the ideas that do not have a evidence for its existence can be level to a joke. 

Believing in superstition like, when your crush and you has the same color of the clothes this day and to the other day; this may consider that both of you are soul mates. This is one of the famous superstition that researcher finds out when they studying about this kind of idea. They probably end up to a non-sense basis of learning in the beliefs that traditionally known among the generations nowadays.

We are just attaching ourselves to a nonsense ideas that will make us think that this exist. Maybe that scenario is a coincidence and none of you expect that you have the same color of the shirt for that day. CHANCES matters here but in studies it don't make sense.

We Filipinos are very attach to this things. In the article, " The Filipino Superstition-The Wacky side of Culture" written by NKORUNE, a blogger. He stated that we are so loved to be in this kind of topic that's why we simply involve ourselves in the different scenarios that not necessary to use as a source for finding and belief in the kind of idea like this, "When your nose is itchy, someone's kissing your photo." Kinda weird because there will be instances that something happen to your nose or probably its irritating, and nothing to do on the point of giving beliefs that just make you crazy. Because it is NON-SENSE. 

According to the blogger NKORUNE ,"When it came to relationship superstitions, a part of me believed them. Maybe because I didn't want to risk the relationship even if they were just silly beliefs."
(http://oldfashinthecity.wordpress.com/2012/03/02/filipino-superstitions)


II. The Effects of Soul Mates Belief

A. Soul mates & Relationship stability:


CULTURE,the act of developing the intellectual and moral faculties especially by education, it is also an integrated pattern of human knowledge,belief and behavior that depends upon the capacity for learning and transmitting knowledge to succeeding generations.(Source:Merriam Webster).This is how the generation from now attach to this because of the transmitted learning and knowledge. We are just doing the same thing as the other do past years ago. One of the example the moves in having a soul mate relation is the feelings that you are expressing to your heart but sense by your brain or eyes.


In an article entitled," The Soul Mate Fantasy" written by David Beasley. This article was written by Mr. David Beasley(Deceased) and edited by his wife Sabrina to publish for the website Family Life. This article written before the writer died because of an automobile accident. He wrote this article to make an eye opener that the soul mates are meant because of the power of our Creator.

He was devoted to the blessed power of God and he connected the article on how they lived and survived their relationship by prayers. Most other people were fantastical, unreal notion that God brings together two lost heart who experience true compatibility in all the deepest longings for their being. Others be like, Soul mate is someone with whom you argue and spend endless days of hand-clinching romantic walk. With no hardships and no struggles. The only truth is, soul mate isn't someone you intentionally and prayerfully become. And so, this is what we are culture for the PRAYERS that we do in order to have a best or maybe a better half to be with through the connection of our Creator. Talk to God and say the things you want to happen. Patience will be your key and this will be the kind of scenario you want to happen will be successful and real.

"It only comes from giving up the selfish behavior that served you while you were single and focusing on selflessly serving again spouse instead",Mr. Beasley said. 
(http://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/getting-married/engagements-and-weddings/the-soul-mate-fantasy#.U6aqZJR8DMg)



B. Soul mates & Creation:

Most of us are really into movie such as soul mates are one of the most common topic that conquer the theater or cinema. It has a lot of lessons and variety of scenarios that connect to the life of every people. Mostly movies are the eye opener to those people since it teaches/shows you the truth probably the reality of life. Different settings or scenarios that may reflect directly called as "Mirror of Life" . It mirrors the true emotion, action and feeling that the actors or actresses portray in a screenplay (movies). Movie goers are actually attach to the different kind of movies that help them to remember or think about the things that recall something to assist ideas through the reality of life.


So why did I connect this to the psychological effect of soul mates? Suddenly people want to feel in love,right?. In the article entitled,"Why searching for a soul mate could stop you even finding love" written by Andrew Marshall. This article states that movies try to overlook the actuality of those scenarios that maybe used to determine the true stage of your love life. Because it will matter on how they rationalize their selves in the moments or problems that they may affect them a lot. 


Well, it will not matter on the decision they do but on the possibilities that may happen if your point of views will be affected. Well in this argument/problem the decision making process may affects you a lot psychologically. Those scenarios provides you P.O.V. that really makes you in a good way or maybe in the miserable kinda result.


According to Andrew Marshall,"The myth of soul mates can provide fig leaf to convince people that it is OKAY to cheat if they are DESTINED". 
(http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2048434/Why-searching-soulmate-stop-finding-love.html)



C. Soul mates & Standards

Soul mate, this is a belief to have a lover/suitor in a very perfect time or place. Though you're not sure regards to its existence. Love concept is playful,truly hard to find some one that will seriously and happily stayed with for the rest of his/her life.

Existence? It has a very deep meaning though. Probably you might apply something that impossible to appear. Like soul mate, many people accept the concept of having a meant to be even though it is not yet proven. Since all of us are expecting to have a perfect husband/wife but not that necessarily cause maybe in some instance you two may have imperfections. But then this person will be expected as your lover,the one who will take care and commit his life time with you.

This article entitled,"Do soul mates really exist?" written by M.Farouk Radwan. This further explains about the P.O.V. of the writer around the notion of the soul mate. He think that people assume for the thing that they realize the similarity of them. Like what they picture through their father that they wonder those similarity to their BF(Boyfriend). Well those movies that we watch can persuade us to believe to the existence of this concept. But then try to think that this can actually help you to find that perfect person for you to be with for the rest of your life.

"We fall in love with people when they meet our subconscious criteria which is a list of conditions present in our minds that is based on our pasts,unmet,needs and the desire to compensate for our weaknesses". M.Farouk Radwan stated.

(http://www.2knowmyself.com/love_psychology/do_soul_mates_really_exist)




D. Effects of the Soul mates 

Some people are attach on the presence of the idea of soul mates. Meant to be? A word that is used when are referring to a person with his/her couple. Well not to generalize them so, because some of them are not yet have this kind of relation to each other since they are waiting for someone that make them feel special.

Instances have this two way process to find someone that they want to be with someday. Those are the process that commonly apply by the persons that desperate to have a better half. Its either TO WAIT/TO PRAY for him/her for he will be with you for the rest of your life. But you are prefer for him the most. Since some are really based their selves to the idea of prayer.  They're praying for the "SOMEONE" that will possibly change their life.

The article entitled,"The soul mates:What does the Bible say about the one' You're Destined to Marry?" written by Tyler O'Neil. He wrote this article to have an eye opener for those that believing on the power of God on the connection of soul mates. It has effect because many believers will depend their selves on the idea of this thing. They will just wait for the person that actually not existing and cannot be with them for the rest of their lives. 

According to Tyler O'Neil ,"Each man and woman scours the earth for their perfect spouse, so the two can become one again."
(http://www.christianpost.com/news/soul-mates-what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-one-youre-destined-to-marry-102136)


III. CONCLUSION:

Soul mates may help you to be a better individual though it has many instances that will make you an idiot/maybe crazy. Why? Because believing in this kind of idea is nothing without studies and those proofs that can make you satisfy in believing in this idea. It is worth believing for if this concept is really existing and true.

Well, you can't definitely judge those person who believe in this idea. We can be more strong in facing this kind of dilemma, because we probably sink in those belief but naturally don't have concrete ideas that others may understand. As soul mates conquer the connections that may help you believe that the topic exist but it doesn't foment the evidence to support it.

There are a lot of things to be settle just to understand the ideas/evidence of the topic. We can think those things that can satisfy others that soul mate exist. Even though this idea has a lot of effects to you as an individual you continuously believe to this and forget that it may affect you psychologically.

Maybe you should stop the appreciation of the movies idea. These may help you to stop comparing yourself in the scenarios that commonly happen also on the reality of life. We can be more specific that not all people can experience the same thing like others do. We are living in the same planet but we are not definitely have the same states in life. We don't experience things that are similar to the other people. Such that we are always compare ourselves on the scenes that usually happen on the movies. Probably we have the same picture on the setting that is played on the big screen that are portray by the actors and actresses. But actually these ideas are luckily choose to conquer the big screen to be an eye-opener to those people. These are the reasons of the movies that is played to the movie house. They definitely depend to a particular person if he/she have a chance to have that same scenario and be inspire that someday he/she will be experience that thing. 


We are all want to feel in love. Since this is the true essence of life. But we shouldn't believe those things that it is existing. Because these are just the example of belief,superstition,stories and more other connections to this topic. Definitely we are all, people but it is obvious that we don't have the same ideas/thoughts about life. So we should lessen this thing and be based to the reality. We will be more open-minded and mature if we will probably do this thing.

Patience will be the key and will be the fighter/defender that will keep this. Soul mates are just ideas not a reality that can definitely change your life.



Chapter 3
SUMMARY,CONCLUSION AND 
RECOMMENDATIONS


SUMMARY

This paper attempted to explain the psychological effect of believing in soul mate ideas.

The research design used in this study is the explanatory research method wherein data collected from the articles are used to answer the research question posed. The research findings are the following:


1.  Crush is a first part of soul mates though it is such familiar in most of the teenager because they are much attractive in the physical appearance of that person not on his/her attitude. 

2. Reincarnation is also connected to the soul mate ideas, because of some people reincarnate and your soul consciously remember,the joy and the pain you shared the past lifetime you spend together a decade or a century. You just fall in love in some reasons

3.  Soul mates are fantastical,unreal notion that God brings together two lost heart who experience true compatibility in all the deepest longings for their beings. 

4. In spite of the unrealistic belief about the soul mates. They're a lot of individuals, most probably couples are into it and still hoping hat it is exist.


CONCLUSION

Based on the findings of the study, the following conclusions are drawn:

1. As superstition connect to the idea of soul mates; this affects them psychologically because those believers will just hopeful for chances of forever.

2. Culture affects the society as they believe in this idea. This is how the generation from now attach to this because of the transmitted learning and knowledge. We are just doing the same thing as the other do past years ago.

3. Watching movies can also make you a believer of this idea and it can affect you psychologically. Movies try to overlook the actuality of those scenarios that maybe used to determine the true stage of your love life. Because it will matter on how they rationalize their selves in the moments or problems that they may affect them a lot. 

4. Many people accept the concept of having a meant to be even though it is not yet proven; because the standards that you want don't reach the expectation that happen in the reality of life. 

5.  They will just wait for the person that actually not existing and cannot be with them for the rest of their lives. So they will be instances that they will be living alone.


RECOMMENDATIONS

After drawing the conclusions of the study, the researchers hereby make the following  suggestions/recommendations:

1. Soul mates may help you to be a better individual though it has many instances that will make you an idiot/maybe crazy, because believing in this kind of idea is nothing without studies and those proofs that can make you satisfy in believing in this idea. It is worth believing for if this concept is really existing and true.

2. Teenagers should stop believing in this thing, such as this idea can make them not really into the reality. Maybe some scenarios may help them think that it is existing but definitely not. 

3. For the future researchers who will study more about soul mates, this research paper can help them to be open minded. Because the idea of this is not so helpful for those people in  the society. If ever they will study about the soul mates existence hopefully they shall tackle about the evidences to support the given topic.




REFERENCES

Asman, Anita ; Soul Mate-Our Magic Mirror;http://theunexplainedworld.com/asoulmate.htm


Beasley, David(Deceased) Edited by Sabrina Beasley; The Soul Mate Fantasy; http://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/getting-married/engagements-and-weddings/the-soul-mate-fantasy#.U9j9ZeOSw8p


Harra, Carmen Ph.D ; The 10 elements of Soul mates;http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/elements-of-a-soulmate_b_3595992.html 


NKORUNE; The Filipino Superstition-The Wacky side of Culture; http://oldfashinthecity.wordpress.com/2012/03/02/filipino-superstitions


Marshall, Andrew; Why searching for a soul mate could stop you even finding love ;http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2048434/Why-searching-soulmate-stop-finding-love.html


M.Farouk Radwan; Do soul mates really exist?; http://www.2knowmyself.com/love_psychology/do_soul_mates_really_exist



O'Neil,Tyler; The soul mates:What does the Bible say about the one' You're Destined to Marry? ; http://www.christianpost.com/news/soul-mates-what-does-the-bible-say-about-the-one-youre-destined-to-marry-102136